Weddings are not just about the union of two people but also about the blending of families. If you or your partner have children, including them in your wedding ceremony can make the day even more meaningful. As Australia’s #1 male celebrant, I’ve had the pleasure of helping many couples create ceremonies that honour their love for each other *and* their children. Here are some heartfelt ways to incorporate your children into your wedding ceremony, making it a true celebration of family.
1. **Involve Them in the Procession**
One of the simplest and most charming ways to include your children in the ceremony is by having them participate in the procession. Younger children can serve as flower girls or ring bearers, while older kids might walk down the aisle with you or stand by your side as junior bridesmaids or groomsmen. This not only makes them feel special but also symbolises the important role they play in your new family.
2. **Include Them in Your Vows**
Your wedding vows are a powerful moment to express your commitment—not just to your partner but to your children as well. Consider including a special vow or promise to your kids, letting them know how much they mean to you and how excited you are to build a life together as a family. This can be a touching and emotional moment that underscores the significance of your union.
3. **Incorporate a Unity Ceremony**
A unity ceremony is a beautiful way to symbolise the coming together of your family. There are many variations you can choose from: a sand ceremony, where each family member pours a different coloured sand into a single vessel; a candle ceremony, where each person lights a candle to represent their unity; or a padlock ceremony, where everyone locks the family padlock without a key . These rituals create a lasting keepsake that represents your new family bond.
4. **Give Them a Role in the Ceremony**
If your children are old enough, giving them a specific role in the ceremony can make them feel even more involved. They could read a poem, sing a song, or even deliver a blessing or prayer. This not only personalises the ceremony but also allows your children to contribute something meaningful to your special day. Just make sure they’re comfortable with their role and have plenty of time to practice if needed.
5. **Exchange Family Rings or Gifts**
While exchanging rings with your partner is a traditional part of the ceremony, you can extend this tradition to your children as well. Consider giving them a small token, such as a family ring, bracelet, or another meaningful gift, to symbolise your bond. This gesture shows them that they are a cherished part of your new family, and it’s a moment they’ll remember for years to come.
Final Thoughts
Incorporating your children into your wedding ceremony is a beautiful way to honour the love and commitment you’re making as a family. By giving them a role in your special day, you’re not just celebrating your union as a couple—you’re also celebrating the creation of a new, blended family.
If you’re looking for ideas or guidance on how to make your ceremony truly inclusive and family-focused, I’d love to help you create a day that’s as special as the love you share. Let’s make your wedding a celebration of everyone you hold dear.
Jordan Vassallo
Australia’s #1 Male Celebrant
Celebrating Love and Family
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