
5 Top Tips for Writing the Perfect Wedding Vows
As the #1 male celebrant in Australia, I’ve had the privilege of hearing countless wedding vows—each one a window into the heart of a relationship. Your vows are the most personal and significant part of your ceremony, a moment where you can express your love, commitment, and promises to your partner. But let’s face it: writing vows can be daunting. To help you craft something truly special, here are my top five tips for writing the perfect wedding vows.
1. Start Early and Reflect
Don’t wait until the last minute to start writing your vows. Begin the process early so you have plenty of time to reflect on your relationship. Think about what your partner means to you, the journey you’ve shared, and the future you’re looking forward to together. Jot down thoughts, memories, and feelings as they come to you. These notes will be invaluable when you start crafting your vows.
2. Be Authentic
The best vows are the ones that feel true to who you are as a couple. Don’t feel pressured to follow a specific format or tone—whether you’re naturally poetic, humorous, or straightforward, let your personality shine through. Your vows should sound like you, and they should reflect the unique bond you share with your partner. Speak from the heart, and don’t be afraid to be vulnerable.
3. Make Promises That Matter
Your vows are, at their core, a set of promises you’re making to your partner. Think about what commitments are most important to you in your marriage. Do you vow to support each other through thick and thin? To always make time for date nights? To cherish and respect each other’s dreams? Focus on promises that are meaningful to both of you and that will serve as a foundation for your life together.
4. Keep It Balanced
While it’s important to be heartfelt, you don’t want your vows to feel too heavy or overly long. Aim for a balance between sentiment and brevity. A few well-chosen words can be more impactful than a lengthy speech. Remember, your vows are a moment of connection between you and your partner, so keep them personal and to the point. If you’re unsure about the length, aim for about 1-2 minutes of speaking time.
5. Practice, But Don’t Over-Rehearse
Once you’ve written your vows, practice reading them out loud. This will help you get comfortable with the flow and ensure that your emotions won’t overwhelm you on the big day. However, avoid over-rehearsing. You want your vows to feel fresh and genuine, not like a memorized speech. On the day of your ceremony, speak from the heart and let the emotions of the moment guide you.
Final Thoughts
Writing your wedding vows is an opportunity to reflect on your love and the future you’re building together. With these tips in mind, you’ll be able to craft vows that are heartfelt, authentic, and uniquely yours. Remember, there’s no right or wrong way to write vows—as long as they come from the heart, they’ll be perfect.
If you need help or guidance as you prepare for your big day, I’m here to support you every step of the way. Let’s make sure your vows—and your entire ceremony—are as special as the love you share.
Jordan Vassallo
Australia’s #1 Male Celebrant
Guiding You to the Perfect Vows
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