Planning a wedding is one of the most exciting, joyful, and emotional times in your life—but let’s be honest, it can also be a little bit overwhelming. With so many decisions to make (and so many opinions flying around), it’s easy to get caught up in the chaos.

As the #1 Male Celebrant in Australia—and yes, as seen on Married at First Sight—I’ve had the privilege of working with hundreds of incredible couples. And over the years, I’ve noticed a few common traps that many people fall into when planning their big day.

But don’t stress—here are five of the most common wedding planning mistakes, and how to avoid them so your day is smooth, joyful, and uniquely you. Wedding Planning Do's and Do NOT's here and now

1. Forgetting What the Day Is Really About

Between guest lists, flower arrangements, and seating charts, it’s easy to lose sight of what this day is truly about: celebrating your love.

How to avoid it: Schedule regular “wedding-free” date nights with your partner—no planning chat, just the two of you. The most memorable weddings are the ones that stay grounded in the connection between the couple at the centre of it all.

2. Overloading the Ceremony

Want to include a sand ceremony, a candle-lighting, multiple readings, and a live performance from your cousin’s band? I love a meaningful moment—but sometimes less is more.

How to avoid it: Focus on what feels authentic to you. A well-crafted ceremony doesn’t need to be long—it needs to be personal. I’ll help you create a ceremony that reflects your story, your vibe, and your relationship, without the overwhelm.

3. Booking Vendors Before Locking In the Essentials

I’ve seen couples try to lock in vendors before they’ve confirmed their wedding date

How to avoid it: Lock in the essentials first: your venue, date, and celebrant (me!). These set the foundation for your day, and everything else falls into place from there.

4. Trying to Please Everyone

Let me be real with you: You can’t make everyone happy. And trying to will only add stress to your planning process.

How to avoid it: Make choices based on what feels right for you two. Whether that’s writing your own vows, skipping the bouquet toss, or walking down the aisle together—your day should feel like your story, not someone else’s expectations.

5. Leaving the Ceremony to the Last Minute

So many couples spend months curating the reception, and then want to throw the ceremony together. Not on my watch. The ceremony? That’s the heart of the day. That’s the moment you start your forever

How to avoid it: Start planning your ceremony early. I’ll guide you through it all—from vow writing to logistics—so it feels relaxed, joyful, and totally personal. Trust me, this is the part your guests will be talking about for years to come.

Final Thoughts

Your wedding should be a celebration of love, not a checklist of stress. With the right team around you—and a celebrant who genuinely cares—it can be fun, meaningful, and full of magic.

I’m here to help make that happen.

Jordan Vassallo#1 Male Celebrant in Australia | As seen on Married at First Sight

Let’s create something unforgettable—together.👉 Let’s get started